Transformation Thursday | step #14

Did some heavy offloading over the weekend? Good for you. Still struggling to forgive your biggest offenders? No worries, it takes time. While at it let’s try to remind ourselves that ego, pride and arrogance are very destructive. Allow me take you back to a time when God made Adam, the first ever human being, for some reason He asked all His other creations to prostrate to him. A one big headed jinn Iblis disobeyed on grounds that he was more might or a nobler being created from fire and man from mere clay

Am a terrible story writer, please Forgive me, I couldn’t help myself. One wrong act in history has the biggest impact on all our lives. Because Iblis felt special, more important and better than Adam, he couldn’t find it in his peanut size mind to bow for a few seconds and be on his way or perhaps duties. It’s tragic that our fate is sealed for endless trials because the sturbon jinn couldn’t swallow his pride, rebelled and got kicked out of heaven. How we got in the mix? The gigantic egoist proud and arrogant fool asked God to mislead Adam’s kind. Don’t fall prey;

Be humble!

projecting perfection comes from a narrow perspective and it is the beginning of a fatal end, humility on the other hand is a seed of growth. Knowing that you’re not perfect, being conscious of your defects or shortcomings and having modest behavior, attitude and spirit is what makes you well, great. But if you have a sense of superiority, self importance, or entitlement, you believe you are better than others and you know more than everyone else, dump shame and behave in a proud, unpleasant way towards others, my dear you are heading down a tricky path

Contrary to popular belief, humble doesn’t turn you into a doormat and being submissive, obedient, respectful and vulnerable doesn’t make you weak, it takes alot of strength to rise above the ego and do what’s right that explains why Tennyson wrote ‘humility is the highest virtue, mother of them all’ and lets face it, too expensive for some to claim. Anyway however much self exaltion is easy, it’s the signature act of Satan, the very essence of doom. And it doesn’t in any way make you powerful as you can only pretend for too long and we can see right through your insecurities.

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need other’s approval. Because one accepts oneself, the world accepts him or her. Lao Tzu

I pray Allah grants my dad one of the highest places in Janah fore he is my greatest teacher. Even though I have always been humble to some extent, i had traces of pride and arrogance, I’ve respected people of all kinds and been obedient but in my head I felt special, a bit cuter, abit smarter, sometimes a bit richer, and this got me thinking oh the world revolves around me and I am better than others. My dad noticed and he was quick to read me a verse from the quran

Surat AL Isra 17:37 – And walk not on earth with conceit or arrogance. Verily, you can neither rend or penetrate the earth ( pierce or crack it), nor can you attain a stature like the mountains in height

Humility is key to winning Allah’s favors, the prophet said, “no one humbles himself before Allah but Allah will raise him( in status) ” he also said, “no one who has an atom’s weight of arrogance in his heart will enter paradise”. A man said, “O messenger of Allah what if a man likes his clothes and shoes to look good” He said, “Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on people. Quran 25:63 – And the slaves of God are those who walk on earth in humility and calmness, and when the foolish address them ( with bad words) they reply back with mild words of gentleness. Thanks to wiki how here is a few practical ways to be humble;

Accept your limitations – admit that you’re not the best at everything or anything, recognize your faults, be grateful for what you have, don’t be afraid to make mistakes, admit when you make mistakes, avoid bragging, be considerate in conversations, don’t take all credit

Appreciating others – appreciate the talents and qualities of others, stop comparing yourself to others, don’t be afraid to defer to others’ judgment, seek guidance from written texts, remain teachable, help others, go last, compliment others, apologize, listen more than you talk

Rediscovering sense of wonder – rejuvenate your sense of wonder, practise gentleness, spend more time in nature, do yoga, spend more time around children. please read full article here

Humility can improve your life, it goes along way in making you feel healthier and happier. A growing body of research suggests that people who are more humble tend to enjoy better physical and mental health than individuals who are less humble, they handle stress more effectively, they are better able to cope with anxiety and they have better relationships

Thank you bunches for reading, in a society that places so much value on external accomplishment, appearance and self aggrandizement and celebrate cocky, over confident people, i can’t wait to know your stand on humility please share with me in comments below

Much love, Shad

Transformation Thursday | step #13

We all crave connection, each one of us wants to feel important, needed, loved, accepted, appreciated and understood. And watch out for people who say they don’t, they actually need it the most 😂 So we put ourselves out there, sharing parts and pieces of us hoping that perhaps we get some. Trade carefully for the most perfect description of humans is “imperfect”

You can give your all, and for some it’s not good enough. You could be the nicest kindest sweetest human you can possibly be and there is still going to be someone out there who hates you. All humans are flawed and naturally more drawed to dwell on the negatives. No matter how good you’re, everyone won’t like you and fair enough you’re bond to make mistakes which justifies the hate in the first place or may be not..

Here is what am getting at; you’re undoubtedly a good person who is gonna occasionally mess up and get randomly hated. Well, this should be refreshing. I don’t know about you but it means two things for me; I need not worry about being perfect cos I can never be and i don’t have to try to get every one to like you cos everyone won’t!

Now that we have cozed up to the idea that we are not perfect, it’s time to understand that this goes both ways, no one else in your life is perfect either! People make mistakes, they mess up and lie and cheat, hate you for no good reason, and do all sorts of crazy s#it. It finally dawned on me that without forgiveness I wouldnt be talking to my mum, dad, siblings, or anyone I’ve had any sort of relationship with before because honestly we have all hurt each other at some point in many different ways

Forgiveness is like medicine, medicine that can heal your pain. It can bring you peace and ultimately.. this is what we want for you, to be free. To be free – Oprah Winfrey

Forgiveness healed me or atleast it opened the door for my healing journey. After nearing death in 2016, i was forced to let go of all the hatred I had carried from my past. I was literally angry at everyone especially my mum, i blamed anybody I could for my misery and all the pain, it never occurred to me then that I was the reason for my suffering. Luckily one day, i gathered up enough strength and I said the magical words, “I forgive everybody and everything” that, that was cracking the code of the safe that stored all the peace in the world.

It ain’t easy i know but would you rather carry around the baggage of anger, bitterness and toxicity all your life?

Let me borrow the beautiful words of Bishop T.D.Jakes;

If I had held on to all the things that happened to me in my childhood, in my life, i wouldnt be standing here today. We were taught to think that it’s powerful to hold people hostage with what they did wrong, that its powerful, that’s how you get back, ‘no I didn’t forget, and I’m strong, am tough’ but it takes more strength to forgive than it does to be vengeful and angry – forgiveness doesnot exonerate the perpetrator, it doesnot justify their behavior. Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself

My childhood, my life, all pretty tough. Abandoned, rejected, neglected, bullied, traumatized, lonely, different, misunderstood, judged. I had a choice to keep reliving my past, continue to blame and hate people who did me wrong, pass down the same toxicity to my kids in the future, or to forgive and work on healing my wounds so I can be a better person for myself and everyone else, and I choose the latter

I don’t know your story, or who hurt you or even how bad it was, i just know one thing; refusing to forgive is also refusing to give yourself a shot at a much peaceful and happy life. Without forgiveness the world would be in utter chaos, like i put it earlier everyone you’ll ever come across in life is not perfect, once in a while we do things that are not perceived well or taken in good faith, it’s inevitable. If it makes you feel any better, you, yes you, you have hurt people as well and I know that for sure, and you too want to be forgiven

Still not gonna forgive that mf? Well, can you ever go back and change what happened? I don’t think so, why not just control what you can, which is your response to what happened.

If I haven’t managed to convince you yet, perhaps Oprah will – forgiving is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. You think forgiving means accepting what happened to you? Well, it’s accepting that it has happened to you, not that it was okay for it to happen, it’s accepting that it happened. When i got that, i think it took me to the next level of being a better person because I don’t hold grudges for anything or any situation and neither should you. It’s letting go so the past does not hold you prisoner

It also comes with quite a number of health benefits; you’ll have healthier relationship, improve mental health, be less susceptible to anxiety, stress and hostility, lowers blood pressure, you’ll have fewer symptoms of depression, a stronger immune system, improved heart health, improved self esteem etc

Thanks bunches for reading, can’t wait to have your thoughts and experiences on subject.. Please leave them in the comments below

With love, Shad ❤️

Transformation Thursday | step #12

We are all here purposely to love and to be loved! True love is rare as it is hard and only those who are brave enough to give it first, get it back. To love is to please selflessly and to serve tirelessly even without reciprocity. Wait, did you expect a pat on the back for only loving the lovable? something for something is a transaction, what happens when you stop getting that particular thing from someone? Do you then stop loving them? To love truly is to give, share, serve, nurture and add value onto someone or a group of people inorder to improve their welfare without expecting anything in return. A person who serves others has begun to understand the purpose of his/her creation

…. there are two ways to enter a relationship, one way is because you want to extract something from somebody, another way is because you want to share something with somebody. These are two ways. If you’re out to share life will be good. If you’re out to extract, when they close the tap, it’s going to get terrible and nasty – Sadhguru

Last week I wrote about social bonding, and luckily life has pushed my introverted a** out into the world and I’ve met some really nice, kind, sweet and amazing people. I’ll tell you a fact, the day you get a hug from another human is not the same as the day when you don’t. Being around other people is healing, especially if they are people you love and you’re doing something you like, if it makes you laugh, that’s a bonus, congratulations you’re most likely to live longer

But even as we create these relationships, we need to remember something vital;

We are out not to extract but to give, to share, and serve others. Trust me, you need not worry about receiving because pouring into other’s cups automatically fills yours too

You need to understand that, you can’t pour from an empty cup though, it’s really important that you cultivate some self love. If you don’t know how, every thing I’ve shared in transformation Thursday is pretty much it, you can go back and read through, practise and in no time you’ll be overflowing with love

My mama and I have always had an awkward relationship, for some reason may be due to the lies I tell myself or actually the events I experienced in my past made me feel like she didnot love me, little did I know that she on the other hand felt the same way, it’s not until one day that I decided she is my mother afterall, she carried me inside her body for 9 months, breastfeed me for 6 more, bathed me and did it all for me until I took turn, so am gonna love her whether or not she loved me. Trust me that was hard because as children we want to feel like we are loved by our parents but it wasn’t nearly as hard as crying myself to bed almost every night and trying to figure out why am not loved or better still trying to get her to love me but all in vain

“He’s my king” are the words my boyfriend got printed on one of these matching tshirts that he got us, and he really is my king except some good weeks I wasn’t getting good morning texts, it killed me every time I checked my phone and there was no message from him I got a death feeling that followed me until later when he called or texted me. So i wanted to complain and I actually did because you know, i have mental issues but it wasn’t as bad it could have been because first I had to talk to myself and asked some really important questions, like, “who the hell do you think you’re, if he don’t text you, text him, he is not your supplier of oxytocin or whatever hormone is released in the body when you receive a message from someone you love, it’s your responsibility to make yourself happy, he is human too by the way and would very much appreciate getting the texts as well, you don’t have to be selfish or entitled”

Once my mind shifted from am not here to dip a straw and suck love out of people but instead to find ways to love myself so I can give some of this love out to the world, everything changed. That’s how you get the best kind of relationships

I suspect I got boarderline and avoidant personality disorders on small spectrums, yet to confirm. Am working to better myself every day, before this, I used to be very afraid of what other people thought of me, so imagine how hard it was for me to meet new people, horrible. But i kept on telling myself, it’s not a question of “do they like me” the thing is “do i like them?” my dear, this change in attitide takes all the attention off of me onto the person am meeting, so much for freedom. Getting my insecurities out of the way, i can meet just about anyone with as much confidence and it’s indeed beautiful

Don’t make everything about you, our sole purpose is to love, to love is to serve. Ask yourself today, what is it that I can do to make someone else smile? How can I use my gifts and talent to make the world a better place? Life is more or else a reflection, if you shine a light down on humanity, guess what? Your whole being becomes lit. All the joy, peace and happiness is found not in what you have but how many people are happy because of you.

I felt the need to add that, identifying people’s challenges and trying to find solutions for them will not only make you happy but rich, the kind of richness that makes you sleep well at night. Love, giving, sharing, serving or however you want to call it gives your life purpose, meaning and unmatchable fulfillment

Say this out loud with me, i am here to love, everybody and everything regardless of who they’re where they’re from or what they do. I am here to serve, to use my gifts and talent to add value and shine a light down on humanity. I am here to inspire people to be the best versions of them selves and most important I am here to live my truth.. feel free to add your truths.

Thank you so much for reading, challenge yourself to love without fear, favor or return and serve the world in whichever way you can

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Transformation Thursday | step #11

Today happens to be a special day and am so glad the whether outside also agrees, sitting on the 6th level of 7 floors of king Fahd building here in the capital city of my lil beautiful country Uganda, i know one thing for sure “am not short of blessings” I have this richness and fullness in my heart that matches the peaceful endearing atmosphere perfectly, its such a lovely day to be my fiance’s birthday

The greatest joy of life is to love and be loved.” – R.D. Clyde

I didn’t plan for my baby’s big day to fall on the same day I had social bonding lined up, but am happy it did so let’s deal.. Social isolation which is a state of complete or near complete lack of contact between an individual and society has greatly increased in our era for some reasons and it’s linked to adverse health consequences including depression, poor sleep quality, impaired executive function, accelerated cognitive decline, poor cardiovascular function and impaired immunity at every stage of life

Four different types of social bonds were defined by Hirschi that ensure socialization i.e attachment, commitment, involvement and personal norms. Attachment refers to a person’s interest in his/her social surroundings. Commitment refers to a person’s subjective notion and commitment towards socially accepted goals. Involvement deals with individual’s dealing with conventional activities like family, work, social gatherings. Finally individuals with strong personal norms and value systems are less likely to engage in any deviant behavior

Strong, healthy relationships are important through our your life. Your social ties with family members, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and others impact your mental, emotional, and even physical well being. Just like you can’t make a fire with out air, fuel and a spark, you can’t do great things alone.

There are many health benefits of social bonding, some of which I picked from combined insurance;

1. Longer life

Everyone has their own personalities and desires when it comes to relationships. Even if you enjoy being alone, it is important to have at least one good friend to provide support during the good and bad times. Research has shown that having healthy social relationships makes a bigger impact on avoiding early death than taking blood pressure medication or being exposed to air pollution. Committing to a life partner can add 3 years to life expectancy, and studies found that people with strong social relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely.

2. Improved health

The support from social relationships has noticeable benefits to your mental and physical health. Healthy relationships set the tone for an overall healthy lifestyle. If you surround yourself with people who eat healthy, exercise, don’t smoke, etc., you’re more likely to follow that healthy behavior. Not only that, college students who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a common cold when exposed to the virus, while an AARP study with older adults found that loneliness is a significant predictor of poor health. Healthy habits spread through our social networks, so it is important to surround yourself with people who encourage you to live a healthy lifestyle.

3. Reduced stress

Did you know that being married or in a committed, romantic relationship can alter your hormones in a way that reduces stress? Being in a relationship is linked to less production of cortisol, a stress hormone. Having someone help ease the burden of stress by communicating and providing emotional support is important to your health. While marriage and some relationships can be stressful, it can make it easier for people to handle other outside stressors in their lives.

4. Faster healing

If you recently went through a surgery or sickness, it’s helpful to have someone there to take care of you. Whether they remind you to take your medicine or make you chicken noodle soup, having a partner helps take your mind off the pain and helps you recover faster. According to Northwestern medicine, married people who have undergone heart surgery are three times more likely to survive the first three months after surgery than single patients. Married patients also feel more confident about their ability to handle post-surgery pain and were less nervous about the surgery in general. Emotional support is very important when going through a major health change, so don’t be afraid to lean on loved ones.

Here is a few ways to build stronger bonds with community

I’ll end on a high note, am so grateful for my entourage you make this life worth living, it ain’t easy out here but going along with you feels less lonely and the journey, more trackable. I love you fam, my handsome man, friends, workmates, and the people I’ve met online especially on WordPress, this place has some amazing people, who support, encourage and share some incredible insights. May God bless y’all and grant you long, happy, healthy and wealthy lives ❤️🙏🏾Shad

Transformation Thursday | step #10

Horrrreeee, it’s step #10 baby. This is such a milestone for me, because one of my biggest challenges has been Commitment, I’ve always had a timid level of follow through, i get bored and lose interest in things easily. But beat that, who said i can’t get better? With challenge came a profound a change, proud!

Back to the thing that matters the most, this week’s habit. Last week we looked at how to exercise the mind through self affirmations. Today is a good day to learn more on exercising the body;

Work out

I don’t know if it’s safe to assume that atleast everyone knows one or two benefits of exercising your body. If not, check out a whole list of why you gotta work out as am gonna center more around the things you need to know before you fit a work out into your daily routine..

Define your goals

The very first thing you need to pay attention to before working out is have a “big why” do you want to lose or gain weight, do you want to be healthy, perhaps stay younger, fit, stronger or simply feel good. This will not only help you choose the types of workouts best suited to serve your needs but also remembering why you started can help you to keep going when it gets tough

Know your body type

How you respond to workout is influenced by your body type, that is why knowing and understanding your body type is essential when embarking on a fitness journey as it will help you set realistic expectations. There are three basic body types; ectomorph, endomorph and mesomorph. Click here to find out which one you are and the diet and fitness program best for you

Choose a work out plan

You know your body type and you’ve set realistic expectations, it’s time to do the work. Now you have to choose something that you enjoy and feel good doing, if you dont like running, you don’t have to do it try other things like hiking, cardio dance, swimming etc just make sure it’s not quick, fast or easy. Then, decide where you will do the work out from, gym or at home. Will you use equipments, where will you get instructions? Fitness DVD, fitness class or personal trainer, how much time will you spend working out then hold yourself accountable or get a work out buddy who is gonna help you push through

Decide when to work out

My body type is ecto-endomorph, i have a thin upper body and more fat around hip area, my work out goals is strength, happiness, and good skin. I have no real need to gain or lose weight, but i would rather gain and this was not the case when i worked out early in the morning. It accelerated my weight loss with in no time I would look back and not see my butt at all. So i shifted my work out to evening and it’s perfect. My advise is if losing weight is your goal, morning hours will do you best, evening is still good. But if you’re skinny and trying to gain weight, leave the morning hours the heck alone

Proper nutrition and hydration

Before you even think of lifting your leg make your body is hydrated and filled with all nutrients. The muscles you engage during exercise, whether it’s cardio, resistance training or flexibility work, rely on the nutrition you provide them through your diet. Supplying your body with nutrients before you work out, after you work out and in the recovery period between workouts can impact the quality of your session and affect your fitness goals. In some cases, fueling up during an exercise session can improve your results as well. Read more here

In conclusion, work out is vital if you missed the benefits, it provides you with a natural high, you’ll feel and look younger, boosts confidence, you’ll have better sex, better sleep, stronger bones and muscles among others but before you work out it’s imperative that you define your goals, figure out your body type, choose a work out plan, decide when to workout and provide your body with enough nutrients otherwise exercising will do you more harm and produce undesirable results for you

Thank you for reading, feel free to share your thoughts on subject

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Transformation Thursday | step #9

Bliss is the cure for all disease, but there are so many distructions surrounding us that work to distort our peace, that’s why it’s really crucial to slow down, catch your breath, get out of your head for a little while and assess your thoughts and feelings for better judgement which puts you in position to make healthier choices.

Am very grateful that meditation has been made compulsory in Islam. Salah is not only spiritual, it requires us to be focused, mindful, to move our bodies in different ways and repeat certain words, these are different types of meditation which when done correctly comes with count less benefits for our overall health

How about our non muslims friends though🤔 well, so many people around the world regardless of which religion they follow, set aside a few minutes every day to meditate, it doesn’t have to get too dramatic, you can meditate anywhere, any how.. Just being fully present and attentive or focused in whatever you’re doing, is already meditation, this also includes cooking and cleaning or tidying up

Anyway, that was a habit for last week, if you missed it please check it out here. This week, let’s look at my favorite habit, it comes so effortlessly and it works tremendously;

Self affirmations

Change your words, change your life!

Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes

Your brain is like a super computer and your self talk is the program it will run. Words have so much power, and our minds are always eaves dropping on our self talk. If you say you’re not good at remembering names, you program your mind not to remember names, when you say i am not good with people, guess what? You’ve just ruined every chance to make an effort to get better around other people, because now you have justified and sealed your fate

If you knew how powerful our minds are, you would never say anything that you didnt want to be true, it’s not like you say one word and it ruins your life, no, it’s the habit of doing it. Repetition is key, if you keep saying the same words over and over again, it will register and become your reality. So stop with that, “I am stupid” every time you mess up. Be a little more gentle with the way you talk to yourself. I am not sure where I read this but it’s worth sharing, “if some of you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourselves, you wouldn’t have any”. How about we hear it from miss confidence her self;

Fore, He spoke into void and empty and from it merged the beautiful world. Just like magic, right? God spoke everything into existence, words are singularly the most powerful force available for humanity. We can choose to use the words either constructively or destructively but the fact still remains.. The mighty one says “Be” and it becomes, we say “Iam” and we are!

I first learnt of self affirmations from T. Harv Eker’s book “The secrets of the millionaire mind” it was mostly about declarations but somewhere along the lines positive self affirmations poped up. Curious, i had to go and figure out what they are and fortunately found them worthy to practise, never looking back since

What you speak is inscribed in your mind and spirit, you create an atmosphere for it to happen and no matter how long it takes, it will eventually manifest. Tell yourself the things that you want to see, enough with the negative self talk with invites more negativity in your life. Tell yourself, i am a winner, i am a conquerer, no matter how many challenges i face i will rise above, i am a success, i am a champ.. Tell yourself the things you want to achieve and they will surely come to pass

You might consider affirmations to be unrealistic “wishful thinking.” But try looking at positive affirmations this way: many of us do repetitive exercises to improve our physical health, and affirmations are like exercises for our mind and outlook. These positive mental repetitions can reprogram our thinking patterns so that, over time, we begin to think – and act – differently.

For example, evidence suggests that affirmations can help you to perform better at work. According to researchers, spending just a few minutes thinking about your best qualities before a high-pressure meeting – a performance review, for example – can calm your nerves, increase your confidence, and improve your chances of a successful outcome.

Self-affirmation may also help to mitigate the effects of stress. In one study, a short affirmation exercise boosted the problem-solving abilities of “chronically stressed” subjects to the same level as those with low stress.

What’s more, affirmations have been used to successfully treat people with low self-esteem, depression, and other mental health conditions. And they have been shown to stimulate the areas in our brains that make us more likely to effect positive changes in regard to our health.

This latter study suggests that a stronger sense of self-worth makes you more likely to improve your own well-being. So, for example, if you’re worried that you eat too much and don’t get enough exercise using affirmations to remind yourself of your values can spur you on to change your behavior. Read more here to find out how to use affirmation, how to write an affirmation statement and examples of affirmation

I picked something really interesting from Lewis Howes’ instagram page that is gonna make you want to pay close attention to your thoughts and the things you say to yourself, don’t miss it 👇🏾

To healing and Living healthier and happier lives 🥂

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Transformation Thursday | step #8

Hey beautiful, hopefully you’ve been waking up before 6 am and tried to be grateful, dared to take a cold shower and make your bed. If you did, you’re a champ, i know for sure it aint easy, but it’s absolutely doable. Coming from the laziest person like myself is proof that you too can wake up and make boss moves everyday for as long as healing, health and happiness are your goals

Did I also mention that I am kind of slow but after doing the 1,2,3 i always have enough time left to do one of the most important thing before my first prayer of the day, which is;

Meditation

There are so many parts to this activity that makes it my favorite thing to do; slowing down, being fully present in the moment, setting your intention or making your own participation in how things unfold and visualizing or creating your ideal life. I want to be remembered for saying this ” Meditation is the only place where you are ultimately absolutely who, what and where you want to be” 🧘‍♀️ and when you repeatedly, vividly and emotionally think about something, it becomes your reality. This justifies the what you focus on expands cliche.. where attention sores, energy flows and results show. If you knew how powerful your mind is, you would never hold on to a negative thought

As a young girl before reading any books on law of Attraction or manifestation i had already experimented and found that if you want anything in life all you gotta do is pray, believe and you’ll receive. What makes up our belief system? Its our thoughts, feelings and experiences! Buddha couldn’t have said it any better, “what you think you become, what you feel you attract and what you imagine you create”

Now, meditation seems to be the only tool that can help you, slow down, keep track of your thoughts, become blissful and create beautiful moments. You need to remember though, that expecting to have a clear, focused and peaceful mind on your first day meditating is like expecting to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger on your first day at the gym. Good things take time and require consistence and persistence

Much as meditation comes with alot of health benefits, it can also be addictive, being addicted makes you a slave and our goal is to be free. So please dont miss this video 👇🏾

If you’re trying to push yourself into a state of joy, you’re just focusing on the abscence of joy, you’re focusing on lack. When we let go of desire and realise that happiness and joy are in this moment now, then we can start to progress

We already know the mind is a powerful thing, and meditation represents an immense expansion of the human mind. The brain alone is not an important object, it’s important because our own subjectivity shines through it. When our brain shows us the world, it’s really showing us our own selves. And many things don’t exist for us not because they’re un real but because we have not shaped our minds to perceive them

Thoughts are like ocean waves rising and falling, they see only their own motion. They say “I am a wave” but the greater truth which they don’t see is “I am an ocean” there is no separation of the two whether the wave might suppose. When the wave settles down then it instantly recognizes that its source is ocean – infinite, silent and unchanging

The same holds true for mind, when it thinks it is all activity. When it stops thinking it returns to it’s source in silence. Only then when the mind touches pure awareness will the real store houses of life be located – Deepak Chopra

In simple terms, meditation is a practise where an individual uses a technique such as mindfulness or focusing on a particular object, thought or activity to train attention and awareness, and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm and stable state. There are many types of meditation, popular of which are; mindfulness, spiritual, focused, movement, Mantra, and transcendatal Read more here to find out which one works or feels right for you

Besides spiritual and focused meditation mindfulness reasonates with me the most; I sit cross leged, close my eyes, scan my body, mind my breath, mind my thoughts, mind my blessings and visualize, then scan my body again, focus on my breath and slowly opening my eyes. It takes about 30 minutes, and usually i come out with tears in my eyes, peace in my mind, love in heart and bliss in my soul

Ever since I started to meditate i feel more in love and connected to everything including the trees, the stars, insects, birds, I’ve always loved the sunset but now it’s even more fulfilling. I find it much easier to forgive and accept to be loved, my life has more meaning and purpose and very little to no fear at all, I am not worried, i dont over think, I’ve got clearer perspective, i feel centeted, it’s easier for me to regulate my emotions, manage my respond and reflect on my actions plus I’ve gotten more creative

Meditations also calms your nervous system, optimizes your circulatory system, boost immune system, focuses your energy.. Here is more 12 scientifically backed benefits of meditation that you shouldnt miss

Be silent, stay present ❤️👌

Thanks lots for reading, do you meditate? Are you planning to start? what are your thoughts, feelings or experience on this subject? Please let me know in the comments below

Have a brilliant week

Shad 🌹

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