Why postpone happiness for the future when you can have it all day long, every day for the rest of your life!
The distance between you and happiness is “choice” I know there are days you go to bed and you have no idea what the next chapter of your life is gonna bring and then wake up and nothing seems to be adding up. But the only difference between a good day and a bad day is your perspective, attitude and reaction. The same way you brush your teeth everyday is the same way you have to train yourself everyday to see things from a positive angle, have the right attitude and do what’s best for you no matter how hard it is! There people out there in the world who are happier with less than what you have, so truly happiness is a choice.
Over years i have learnt that;
happiness is not a person, people we love and care about pass on and some just walk out on us but do we put our lives on hold and never be happy again? No! And so stop trying to extract happiness from other people.
happiness is not an event, often times we hear people say ” i will be happy when i do this or that” but whether it be graduating, getting signed up at your dream job or finally marrying the love of your life ofcourse you’ll feel ecstatic but happiness is ephermal the feeling you get runs out as quick unless you get to marry your partner every day again and again you won’t be happy.
happiness is not possessions, i think we all know atleast one famous person who had all the materials money can buy but ended up commiting suicide. if you’re unhappy all the gold is in this world won’t make you a happy person.
happiness is not there👆🏽 it’s here ( at this point i want you to touch yourself) happiness is with in, you don’t have to search it from the out side of your self.
HAPPINESS IS WHAT “YOU” “CHOOSE” TO “DO EVERYDAY” in otherwords it’s a choice and a habit and these are some of the things you can start to practise today to become a happy person;
Faith – this is topping my list because the shift from depression, sadness, feeling lost, stuck, confused and alone to becoming a really happy person happened when I created a strong relationship with my creator. I feel like He, my lord is the source of joy, happiness and exuberance that never runs out. All I do is believe and trust Him and I am guided and protected, I pray and ask and He comes through. I got knowledge, wisdom and understanding because I am a believer of the most knowing. I carry all my burdens and hand it over to Him plus it feels really good to know you got someone who really cares and understands, who is so forgiving and always available. Practise prayer every day
Gratitude – its a deep feeling we get from acknowledging that things are pretty amazing even in the most trying and challenging moments, its recognising that things can be much worse and in response count our blessings and choose to meet life with an open heartedness.
i am so grateful to have been part of Jay shetty’s HABITS FOR HAPPINESS 5 days challenges I learnt more on how you can practise gratitude. Close your eyes and think of a moment, memory or interaction you are extremely grateful for that brings joy happiness and you really feel grateful from the heart, can be a person, a place or your own….
think of five things you can SEE in this place ( tree, sky, a person etc) go from one another in your Visualization, think of four things you can TOUCH ( someone’s hand, your clodes), think of three things you can HEAR ( your voice, their voice, background noise, silence, birds chirping etc), think of two things you can SMELL ( flowers, fragrance, essentials etc), think of one thing you can TASTE
Feel that energy fill that power taking over your body and smile. Slowly open your eyes. Repeat Daily
Also, express gratitude to others when you recognize something great in someone else, you reinforce it in them as a habit and then they repeat it to others. on thanksgiving i reminded a couple of my friends some of the great things they did for me and the way they lighted up made me happy as well
Optimism – Believe that good things will happen to you in the future. Cynicism and pessimism like Garyvee has it, is a losing format. Optimism helps improve our lives and makes us happier “a pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity, an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty” I have a mantra and this is one of the lines I recite twice daily; I always look for a good reason or a good lesson in every situation and I believe i can create beautiful things. Optimism has been proven to improve immune system, prevent chronic diseases and increase life span.
work your passion – Alot of people chase things they think have money in them, they wake up everyday and go to do jobs they hate and at the end of the day it drains their energy and have a negative effect on their mental health in the long run do something you love! If you’re building something from the ground up like do something that you’re passionate about so you just have fun everyday and you love what you do – Kylie Jenner it’s really a better life to make less money doing what makes you happy and fulfilled than to make alot of money and feel empty. Put yourself in a position to do something that you like, build around your hobbies, interests and passions.
Be of service to others – we are all here for a reason, its our purpose. To share our natural gifts and talents to add value on to others. when we give or share with others we get a feeling of contentment, always think what can i do today to solve a problem for someone, how can i use what i have to make their lives easier the king is the one that gives. if you have ever given something to someone especially when you didnt expect anything in return, you must know how magical it is and that feeling never gets old
Connecting / social bonding – loneliness is reported as one of the biggest challenges in the world today, get together with some like minded people. when we cuddle, kiss and hug our loved ones or do fun activities with friends and family oxytocin or love hormone is released into our body. Have some quality time with people and try out different fun activities preferably ones you all new at so you learn and grow together and even bond more in the due course, be mindful and present when with your loved ones, it’s better if you switch off phones and T.V for a while and just listen to each other, take strolls, hold hands. This has a calming effect it makes us feel loved and secure and undoubtedly happy. Everyday I gotta hug someone and my little brother is usually the victim😂 always remember that love is a continous act of forgiveness and true love is not dependency, need or control its freedom, help,support and it comes with no conditions.
Mind stimulating activities – i do meditate, exercise, make declarations, do positive self affirmations, listen to some positive podcast, dance to my fav. music, read a chapter from a book, take a walk and do some creative work everyday. i relentlessly devote atleast two hours every morning to do all the above, now guess what? you can do it too. Dopamine or the reward hormone which is linked to the brain reward system is produced whenever we complete a task or a goal we feel accomplished and pleasure, and so kick start your day doing a mind activity, get a positive energy refill that can gracefully carry you through the day
Also learn something new every day, your mind may be the closest thing to the holy grail of longevity and happiness. Education has been widely documented by researchers as the single variable tied most directly to improved health and longevity and when people are intensely engaged in doing and learning new things their wellbeing and happiness can blossom -Article by Phillip Moller for U.S. News
Build your self esteem / Confidence – if you dont stand for something you will definitely settle for anything, if you dont know who you’re you will believe everything the world labels you. put your defensive guard down, look at yourself authentically and be honest about who you really are! know your strengths and weaknesses.. knowing who you are is the beggining of wisdom, once you figure this out you can be clear on what you need to work on to become the best version of yourself.
Meanwhile Accept who you’re and this means you have to be fine with whether or not people like it, when you dont accept yourself you become insecure because then you start to look for approval and acceptance from other people.
And then, love yourself, because the one thing you want to do is to love, and that love should begin with you, once you love you you love the whole world. its easy, its delicious to love everybody and everything – Dr.Sebi. practise singleness, where you just enjoy being in your own space, have a lone time to reflect, dance silly, listen to your fav. music, say kind words to yourself, treat yourself to nice things… love yourself in such a way you would love others to love you and more.
Temperament / character – practise self control, its not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters. you can’t control what happens to you but you have absolute power over how you react and your actions are your karma, every vibe you give out in the world you receive. Delay your response, take things slow, have integrity, be conscious of your actions and practise acts of kindness, be humble..
Sleep – going to sleep late is not a boss move, sleeping early and waking early is! Sleep deprivation will rid you of happiness fast. I can’t seem to find a resolution on how many hours are neccesary but one thing is for sure having quality and reasonable time to rest your body is a necessity! One that should not be taken lightly. Sleep and mood are closely connected, poor sleep can cause irritability, stress, depression and anxiety while healthy sleep enhances well being.
Eat – i recently discovered that there are certain foods that can stimulate the release of happy hormones like dopamine is made from tyrosine which is present in Bananas, ovacados, apples, oats, beans and leafy greens. Have a proper nutrition, start your day by drinking one litre of water to help flash out toxins, eat just enough food and eat slowly.
Lastly, for the past few weeks I have been practicing “zen” things. Not all the essentials of course am thinking it requires alot of guidance, training and practising to get there but following one or two things has greatly decreased my anxiety and I started to feel more happy, alive and healthy; do one thing at a time, do it slowly and deliberately, do it completely, do less, put space between things, develop rituals, designate time for certain things, devote time to sitting, smile and serve others, make cleaning and cooking become your meditation, think about what is neccesary and live simply.
Thank you bunches for reading🤗